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The countdown is over! Your service member is finally about to return home and you are a bundle of nerves and excitement all rolled into one. You want everything to be perfect when you are …

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In serious relationships and marriages, we are right there with our spouses when they face difficult times. Whether they have simply had a bad day or are experiencing a traumatic event, like a death or …

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Stereotypes. I know we all hate them but they are still there, especially within the military community. One of the biggest ones is that all military spouses are the same. Heck, most people still just …

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Dear Military Spouse, God doth not need Either man's work or his own gifts: who best Bear his mild yoke, they serve him best. His state Is kingly; thousands at his bidding speed And post o'er land and ocean without …

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We can look into the eyes of our children to see the impact. We can listen to the impact by the sound of a slammed door and the sobs deep in the recesses of their …

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Photo credit: Ali Eminov Dear Civilian Best Friend, There are no words to express my heart-felt thanks for being friends with my military child. Countless times she has had to brave a new playground filled with nothing but …

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Buying a home is a right of passage; always an expensive passage but hopefully a very exciting one! It’s a huge step of responsibility that for those in the military comes with a level of …

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A deployment is an interesting thing. Even though most of us are accustomed to surviving (and even thriving) while our service member is away, and even though we are more than capable of handling things …

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I don’t remember hearing much about Women’s History Month growing up. I don’t think it’s because people were resistant to it; I think people were unprepared. I went back to school for a degree in …

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I am proud of my husband for taking risks for our country. I believe our service-members exhibit sacrifice, dedication and compassion, which are traits respectable in all people. But, unfortunately, parts of our military are …

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29 Homecoming Signs We Love

homecoming-signs

The countdown is over! Your service member is finally about to return home and you are a bundle of nerves and excitement all rolled into one. You want everything to be perfect when you are reunited as a family. The fridge is stocked, the house is clean, you have picked out the perfect outfit for the day…and you are thinking of the perfect thing to write on a banner or poster … [Read more...]

29 Homecoming Signs We Love

I Don’t Fit the Military Spouse Mold

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Stereotypes. I know we all hate them but they are still there, especially within the military community. One of the biggest ones is that all military spouses are the same. Heck, most people still just say military wives! It’s 2015 and we are breaking the mold of what it means to be a military spouse these days. But that doesn’t mean it’s always easy to be a non-traditional … [Read more...]

I Don’t Fit the Military Spouse Mold

It’s Ok To Say It’s Not OK

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Dear Military Spouse, God doth not need Either man's work or his own gifts: who best Bear his mild yoke, they serve him best. His state Is kingly; thousands at his bidding speed And post o'er land and ocean without rest: They also serve who only stand and wait. (John Milton, “Sonnet 16: On His Blindness”) I’ve had the opportunity and privilege to write … [Read more...]

It’s Ok To Say It’s Not OK

The Impact of PCS Moves on Your Kids

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We can look into the eyes of our children to see the impact. We can listen to the impact by the sound of a slammed door and the sobs deep in the recesses of their bedroom. We can feel the impact on them when we wrap our arms around them in a strong embrace and whisper, “I’m sorry.” Photo Credit: Vladimir Pustovit As parents, we know moving frequently from location to location … [Read more...]

The Impact of PCS Moves on Your Kids

So, You Want to be a Landlord

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Buying a home is a right of passage; always an expensive passage but hopefully a very exciting one! It’s a huge step of responsibility that for those in the military comes with a level of risk not common for our civilian counterparts. Frequent and sometimes unexpected orders to PCS can put military families in a position where selling on short notice is simply not feasible. In … [Read more...]

So, You Want to be a Landlord

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

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A deployment is an interesting thing. Even though most of us are accustomed to surviving (and even thriving) while our service member is away, and even though we are more than capable of handling things on our own…we often find ourselves shaking our head over the things that seem to worry us or the downright silly things we do. We have all heard of the Deployment Curse; an … [Read more...]

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

Breaking Barriers: Women in the Military

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I don’t remember hearing much about Women’s History Month growing up. I don’t think it’s because people were resistant to it; I think people were unprepared. I went back to school for a degree in Social Science education and one of the most intense debates in all of my classes was how to teach history. Strangely, history can change. With technological advances, research, and … [Read more...]

Breaking Barriers: Women in the Military

Masculinity in the Military

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I am proud of my husband for taking risks for our country. I believe our service-members exhibit sacrifice, dedication and compassion, which are traits respectable in all people. But, unfortunately, parts of our military are still organized around gender, with core virtues based on harmful ideals of masculinity. Photo Credit: Flickr user USMC The institution reinforces … [Read more...]

Masculinity in the Military

Remembering the Fallen

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    About 10 years ago, I heard that one of my schoolmates died during service. I remembered him clearly; he was a quiet, nice guy. I didn’t know he went on to join the military and I was even more surprised to learn that he was a Navy SEAL. I didn’t know much about the SEAL qualification process but I knew it was grueling and granted only to the most elite. He … [Read more...]

Remembering the Fallen