How To: Keep Dating Even After You're Married
photo by Dawn Stanley, Marine spouse
Do you remember when you first met your spouse? Remember those early flutters of excitement and how everything your spouse said made you laugh in that silly schoolgirl/schoolboy way?
Yeah, that was so 10 years ago.
How can a person keep those fires burning five, 10, 15 or even 20-plus years into a marriage, and why is it so darn important to do so? According to Danielle Mark, a Navy spouse married for 15 years, it’s necessary for many reasons: “It is important to date your spouse because our lives are so busy," she says. "We need some time to get caught up and to be ‘us.’ Dating puts romance back into our relationship.”
Danielle believes that “dating” while geographically separated is especially vital. “Dating long distance, mostly over long deployments, is a major need,” she says. “Never underestimate the power of a quick, two-second phone call just to say ‘I love you.’”
One of the keys is creativity: If you’re stuck in the “dinner and a movie” rut, what options do you have for spicing things up a bit? How do you reconnect with your spouse in a creative way? We’ve gathered some wisdom from other spouses to bring you a dozen cool ideas.
You can use these ideas or any you dream up together to reconnect in some way this year. You’re busy, but it’s worth the effort today: Distance that slowly develops in your relationship can become more difficult to overcome ?as time passes. Just as you make your children and careers a priority, you should also make your marriage one. And you can have fun in the process!
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