Becoming whole again

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com No matter what you think about the movie American Sniper, it has people talking and bringing our Service Members and our Veterans into the foreground. And, some Veterans feel that the movie got …

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Deployment is looming: One spouse has only been married for a few months, is living in a town where she hasn’t really connected with any other spouses yet, she is expecting her first baby during …

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Photo Credit: Flickr user U.S. Pacific Fleet   When my dad would go out to sea, I always had this picture in my head of what he was doing. Part of it probably came from watching Peter …

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Edward Pola and George Wyle, writers of, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year,” certainly didn’t have military families separated during the holidays in mind when they wrote this song. While the holidays can …

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Photo Credit: Flickr user Nathan Rupert   1. Stay Busy This might be the advice you hear most from other spouses who have been through a deployment. That’s because it’s SO very important. It’s crucial that you don’t …

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Military deployments are emotionally draining. That's no secret. But few people shine the light on how physically exhausting and demanding a deployment can be on the spouse who maintains the home front. Think about it, …

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1. Do not become a news junkie. You automatically become a bit more vulnerable and emotional and hypersensitive when you have a loved one overseas. Every news story becomes terrifying. Any time there is news of …

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Article by Amber Myers, Air Force Spouse.  Read more from Amber here: http://www.airingmylaundry.com/ I sort of knew something was wrong by the expression on his face. When you've been married for almost 12 years, you know. He wouldn't …

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Photo Credit: Robin Shotola, Flickr.com The military way of life throws many curveballs into families. Even on trips as short as two months, it's easy for the romance to change between partners. You haven't been living …

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If you've gone through a deployment, you know that it's easy to feel very disconnected. You're living separate lives: your spouse is overseas going through things you can't understand (and probably don't want to) and …

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Becoming Whole Again After Deployment

Becoming whole again

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com No matter what you think about the movie American Sniper, it has people talking and bringing our Service Members and our Veterans into the foreground. And, some Veterans feel that the movie got it right, validating their experience. Our Service Members and Veterans should be acknowledged for their service and sacrifice. And, so should their … [Read more...]

Becoming Whole Again After Deployment

Should I Move Home During Deployment?

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Deployment is looming: One spouse has only been married for a few months, is living in a town where she hasn’t really connected with any other spouses yet, she is expecting her first baby during this deployment and doesn’t want to go it alone, and she misses her family and friends back home fiercely. She doesn’t want to seem like she is running back to Mom and Dad when things … [Read more...]

Should I Move Home During Deployment?

The Reality of a 9-month Deployment

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Photo Credit: Flickr user U.S. Pacific Fleet   When my dad would go out to sea, I always had this picture in my head of what he was doing. Part of it probably came from watching Peter Pan so many times as a kid I just imagined him on the water with Captain Hook. Now that I’ve done my own 9-month government-sponsored cruise, I know I was wrong. Oh so very wrong! Let me help … [Read more...]

The Reality of a 9-month Deployment

6 Tips to Make the Holidays Magical Through Deployment

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Edward Pola and George Wyle, writers of, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year,” certainly didn’t have military families separated during the holidays in mind when they wrote this song. While the holidays can be a joyful time, it is harder to celebrate with a heart full of cheer when part of your core family is a world away. The holidays can bring the blues, and if you are … [Read more...]

6 Tips to Make the Holidays Magical Through Deployment

Don’t Put Your Life on Hold

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Military deployments are emotionally draining. That's no secret. But few people shine the light on how physically exhausting and demanding a deployment can be on the spouse who maintains the home front. Think about it, with one hug and a kiss you go from being in a two-parent household to some kind of single parent for up to 11 months at a time in some cases. You receive the … [Read more...]

Don’t Put Your Life on Hold

12 Things Not To Do During a Deployment

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1. Do not become a news junkie. You automatically become a bit more vulnerable and emotional and hypersensitive when you have a loved one overseas. Every news story becomes terrifying. Any time there is news of troops being injured or killed, your heart will stop. It's foolish to surround yourself in that stress. Don't allow yourself to poor over every news story for the … [Read more...]

12 Things Not To Do During a Deployment

The Pity Flowers

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Article by Amber Myers, Air Force Spouse.  Read more from Amber here: http://www.airingmylaundry.com/ I sort of knew something was wrong by the expression on his face. When you've been married for almost 12 years, you know. He wouldn't look me in the eye, for one. He bit down on his lower lip.  I had the flowers that he brought me in my arms. I was happy and surprised when he … [Read more...]

The Pity Flowers

How to Avoid Distance AFTER Distance

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Photo Credit: Robin Shotola, Flickr.com The military way of life throws many curveballs into families. Even on trips as short as two months, it's easy for the romance to change between partners. You haven't been living the same life together. You've been through a very different set of experiences. For the service member, life back in the states can be overwhelming. For … [Read more...]

How to Avoid Distance AFTER Distance

Time Together When You’re Apart

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If you've gone through a deployment, you know that it's easy to feel very disconnected. You're living separate lives: your spouse is overseas going through things you can't understand (and probably don't want to) and you're at home alone or with a family that needs your care. Your spouse doesn't know what it's like to manage as a temporary single parent any more than you could … [Read more...]

Time Together When You’re Apart

Homecoming Basics: What To Wear?

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Article by Rachel Graven, Active Duty Navy. Marine Corps Spouse Your heart is pounding.  Months have become weeks.  Weeks have become days.  You've cleaned house.  You've shaved your legs, finally! (Men, maybe it's that mustache!)  You can't help but blow up your best friend's phone, because despite being an adult who gets ready every morning, you cannot possibly get dressed … [Read more...]

Homecoming Basics: What To Wear?

20 Ways To Stay Strong On The Homefront

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I remember going through my first deployment with my husband. We were married only three weeks before he departed. The day he left, he dropped me off at the San Diego airport so I could catch my flight back to Chicago. Because he was in his flight suit and planned to head to the airfield and the waiting jets, he couldn't get out of the car. We hugged, tears streamed down my … [Read more...]

20 Ways To Stay Strong On The Homefront

How To Have A Guilt Free Deployment

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So, you've reached the acceptance stage of deployment. You're over your initial funk of living through the day to day without your spouse there to walk through life together. You're almost actually enjoying yourself when you have more time to spend doing what you want to do or more time to share with your friends. Or, you've found that you can still have fun at family … [Read more...]

How To Have A Guilt Free Deployment

Dear Sally – Help! I prepared for the WRONG reintegration

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Dear Sally -  I know a lot of spouses talk about how tough it is to readjust to your deployed loved one coming home. And they're right, we did go through a few bumps but ultimately, we figured it out. My husband was gone for a year-long deployment while we were stationed at a small post that not many people deploy from. But you see, I was one of the lucky ones.  I had the best … [Read more...]

Dear Sally – Help! I prepared for the WRONG reintegration

25 Ways to Keep Kids Busy During Deployment

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Our military kids are known for being super resilient, but even the most seasoned "brat" can have a tough time adjusting to a deployment. And as parents, we long to make the experience a little easier for them. Many of us ask ourselves, "what can I do to help keep their mind off of this separation", or "how can our family stay busy so the time won't seem to drag on?" We asked … [Read more...]

25 Ways to Keep Kids Busy During Deployment

Staying Busy While You’re Deployed

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Do you ever wonder what happens at home the day your ship goes underway?  How does your spouse handle it?  What do they do to cope with the sadness of your absence?  What do they do with their free time?  Do they go through your stuff?  In this letter to my husband, I answer those questions.  While he was out to sea, I tackled the very intimidating (for me) task of replacing a … [Read more...]

Staying Busy While You’re Deployed