how to love for two during deployment

When a key figure in our lives suddenly disappears for a long period of time how do we actively acknowledge their “presence,” without their physical presence? Better yet how do we explain to our young …

Care package tips

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com. (Read more here!) Care packages are one of those things that are at the center of deployment for military significant others. For me, they were always a tangible way to connect with John …

kids and deployment

So, your spouse comes home with deployment orders and you're finally going to drop the bomb on your kids telling them their active duty parent is about to head overseas. If you're anything like me, …

reintegration struggles

I remember my first year as a brand new military spouse that I heard a lot of buzz about the trials of reintegration. This concept always left me so confused. Seasoned spouses talked about how …

week before homecoming

Photo Credit: Flickr user Marines This is the final countdown… 7 Days… Did I really buy that dress for homecoming!? No. No way! Not happening. I will not be THAT wife with my tatas falling out when I …

deployment playlist

Article Originally Published at JoMyGosh.com When John was deployed, I listened to a lot of music… and a lot of the same music over and over again. And I know I’m not alone. I put an …

homecoming-signs

The countdown is over! Your service member is finally about to return home and you are a bundle of nerves and excitement all rolled into one. You want everything to be perfect when you are …

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A deployment is an interesting thing. Even though most of us are accustomed to surviving (and even thriving) while our service member is away, and even though we are more than capable of handling things …

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1. Stay Busy This might be the advice you hear most from other spouses who have been through a deployment. That’s because it’s SO very important. It’s crucial that you don’t allow yourself to become too …

deployment-by-the-numbers

7 months, 217 Days, .59 years… It sounds so small, so precise, so easily attainable. So much has happened though, that 7 months might as well be a millennium, he and I living in a …

Deployment Articles

How to Love for Two During Deployment

how to love for two during deployment

When a key figure in our lives suddenly disappears for a long period of time how do we actively acknowledge their “presence,” without their physical presence? Better yet how do we explain to our young children that daddy isn’t gone forever, even if he can’t be there for soccer games, dance recitals, and birthday parties? During my husband’s last deployment I found myself in a … [Read more...]

How to Love for Two During Deployment

REALLY Good Care Package Tips for Military Spouses

Care package tips

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com. (Read more here!) Care packages are one of those things that are at the center of deployment for military significant others. For me, they were always a tangible way to connect with John and take care of him, even when he was 7,000 miles away. It was nice to know that, when he got mail, there would be at least a few minutes of his day that weren’t … [Read more...]

REALLY Good Care Package Tips for Military Spouses

5 Ways to Drop the Deployment Bomb

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So, your spouse comes home with deployment orders and you're finally going to drop the bomb on your kids telling them their active duty parent is about to head overseas. If you're anything like me, having to explain it all and have this conversation is one of the things that will bring you to your knees. There's nothing quite as intimidating as knowing you're giving your kids … [Read more...]

5 Ways to Drop the Deployment Bomb

Reintegration Struggles

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I remember my first year as a brand new military spouse that I heard a lot of buzz about the trials of reintegration. This concept always left me so confused. Seasoned spouses talked about how difficult it could be when their service member returned, and they had to figure out how to put life back together following a deployment. I must admit that I was one of those newly … [Read more...]

Reintegration Struggles

My Honest Thoughts the Week Before Homecoming

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Photo Credit: Flickr user Marines This is the final countdown… 7 Days… Did I really buy that dress for homecoming!? No. No way! Not happening. I will not be THAT wife with my tatas falling out when I run up to him. Nope. But then, he loves those tatas and who am I trying to impress? Him or everyone in the hanger? Do I have time to get to the mall tonight? I do have the shoes … [Read more...]

My Honest Thoughts the Week Before Homecoming

The Only Deployment Playlist You’ll Ever Need

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Article Originally Published at JoMyGosh.com When John was deployed, I listened to a lot of music… and a lot of the same music over and over again. And I know I’m not alone. I put an all call out on Facebook and asked for deployment song suggestions – you know, the ones that speak to you, that you can’t get out of your head, that you just have to listen to. Here’s what a … [Read more...]

The Only Deployment Playlist You’ll Ever Need

29 Homecoming Signs We Love

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The countdown is over! Your service member is finally about to return home and you are a bundle of nerves and excitement all rolled into one. You want everything to be perfect when you are reunited as a family. The fridge is stocked, the house is clean, you have picked out the perfect outfit for the day…and you are thinking of the perfect thing to write on a banner or poster … [Read more...]

29 Homecoming Signs We Love

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

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A deployment is an interesting thing. Even though most of us are accustomed to surviving (and even thriving) while our service member is away, and even though we are more than capable of handling things on our own…we often find ourselves shaking our head over the things that seem to worry us or the downright silly things we do. We have all heard of the Deployment Curse; an … [Read more...]

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

Deployment Battle Plan

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1. Stay Busy This might be the advice you hear most from other spouses who have been through a deployment. That’s because it’s SO very important. It’s crucial that you don’t allow yourself to become too isolated or have so much free time that you end up at home moping all alone. Fill that calendar up as much as you can. You might be a little more worn out, but time will go … [Read more...]

Deployment Battle Plan

Deployment by the Numbers

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7 months, 217 Days, .59 years… It sounds so small, so precise, so easily attainable. So much has happened though, that 7 months might as well be a millennium, he and I living in a sci-fi, parallel universe situation instead of just separated by the continent and ocean that we are. It is 1/8th of our daughter’s young life, and oh my, how she’s grown. It is 1/60th of mine, and … [Read more...]

Deployment by the Numbers

Deployment #2 (or 3 or 4!) Is Hard Too!

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I can't even count the number of times I've heard the phrase, "Well, this is your 5th (or 6th or 7th) deployment, so your family must be used to it. I'm sure you will all adjust so well since you do this all the time." I know it's always meant with a good heart, but it's sort of like pouring salt on an open wound. Not only is it not true, it makes me remember how much time my … [Read more...]

Deployment #2 (or 3 or 4!) Is Hard Too!

Becoming Whole Again After Deployment

Becoming whole again

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com No matter what you think about the movie American Sniper, it has people talking and bringing our Service Members and our Veterans into the foreground. And, some Veterans feel that the movie got it right, validating their experience. Our Service Members and Veterans should be acknowledged for their service and sacrifice. And, so should their … [Read more...]

Becoming Whole Again After Deployment

Should I Move Home During Deployment?

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Deployment is looming: One spouse has only been married for a few months, is living in a town where she hasn’t really connected with any other spouses yet, she is expecting her first baby during this deployment and doesn’t want to go it alone, and she misses her family and friends back home fiercely. She doesn’t want to seem like she is running back to Mom and Dad when things … [Read more...]

Should I Move Home During Deployment?

The Reality of a 9-month Deployment

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Photo Credit: Flickr user U.S. Pacific Fleet   When my dad would go out to sea, I always had this picture in my head of what he was doing. Part of it probably came from watching Peter Pan so many times as a kid I just imagined him on the water with Captain Hook. Now that I’ve done my own 9-month government-sponsored cruise, I know I was wrong. Oh so very wrong! Let me help … [Read more...]

The Reality of a 9-month Deployment

6 Tips to Make the Holidays Magical Through Deployment

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Edward Pola and George Wyle, writers of, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year,” certainly didn’t have military families separated during the holidays in mind when they wrote this song. While the holidays can be a joyful time, it is harder to celebrate with a heart full of cheer when part of your core family is a world away. The holidays can bring the blues, and if you are … [Read more...]

6 Tips to Make the Holidays Magical Through Deployment

12 Things TO DO During Deployment

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Photo Credit: Flickr user Nathan Rupert   1. Stay Busy This might be the advice you hear most from other spouses who have been through a deployment. That’s because it’s SO very important. It’s crucial that you don’t allow yourself to become too isolated or have so much free time that you end up at home moping all alone. Fill that calendar up as much as you can. … [Read more...]

12 Things TO DO During Deployment

Don’t Put Your Life on Hold

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Military deployments are emotionally draining. That's no secret. But few people shine the light on how physically exhausting and demanding a deployment can be on the spouse who maintains the home front. Think about it, with one hug and a kiss you go from being in a two-parent household to some kind of single parent for up to 11 months at a time in some cases. You receive the … [Read more...]

Don’t Put Your Life on Hold

12 Things Not To Do During a Deployment

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1. Do not become a news junkie. You automatically become a bit more vulnerable and emotional and hypersensitive when you have a loved one overseas. Every news story becomes terrifying. Any time there is news of troops being injured or killed, your heart will stop. It's foolish to surround yourself in that stress. Don't allow yourself to poor over every news story for the … [Read more...]

12 Things Not To Do During a Deployment