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When it comes to preparing for a deployment there are countless resources to go along with those countless situations you will need to prepare for. When it comes to acts of nature there was an article …

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It’s 10:37 p.m. on a Thursday night. I’m sitting here unshowered with one hand stuck in a large bag of chocolate chips, writing, erasing, writing, erasing some more, desperate to pull some magic from thin air …

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Deployment is hard. It’s draining—physically, emotionally, mentally. It’s hard to be separated from your partner and harder when anything complicates it. A birth. A death. A PCS. A difficult job. Kids with special needs. Depression. And …

10 GIFs showing phases of deployment emotions

1. Superwoman or Superman Phase The initial “everything will be ok, I’m strong, I can handle this” phase. 2. Freakout Phase This often happens pretty quickly after the superwoman phase and sometimes involves hysterics and/or fantasies of running away …

the deployment wall

I have hit “the wall.” You know that point during a deployment where you are just done? Realistically you know it is far from over. But mentally, physically, emotionally…you are kind of over it all. …

the deployment curse

We asked spouses to share their deployment curse stories. Here are some of the best. Share yours in the comments! Abbie Bruno Patterson: LOL--Well, it wasn't a "deployment" (but at the time, for us it was.) …

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Article and Photo Credit: Besa Pinchotti for NMFA Last night, I attended the D.C. premiere of the new Ethan Hawke-January Jones movie, “Good Kill,” about Air Force pilot turned drone operator, Maj. Tom Egan. If you’re interested …

change and communication during deployment

There’s lots of time spent amongst military spouses talking about how we can each persevere through deployments. It can be really challenging to face the day to day grind while your spouse is away, but …

how to love for two during deployment

When a key figure in our lives suddenly disappears for a long period of time how do we actively acknowledge their “presence,” without their physical presence? Better yet how do we explain to our young …

Care package tips

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com. (Read more here!) Care packages are one of those things that are at the center of deployment for military significant others. For me, they were always a tangible way to connect with John …

Deployment Articles

Preparing for the Unknown

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When it comes to preparing for a deployment there are countless resources to go along with those countless situations you will need to prepare for. When it comes to acts of nature there was an article from militaryspouse.com that is a great resource of how to know if you are prepared or not (You can read it here.) Acts of nature are not the only thing you need to prepare for. … [Read more...]

Preparing for the Unknown

5 Ways to Readjust Expectations During Deployment

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It’s 10:37 p.m. on a Thursday night. I’m sitting here unshowered with one hand stuck in a large bag of chocolate chips, writing, erasing, writing, erasing some more, desperate to pull some magic from thin air for an overdue article. Two of my three girls are locked in their room finally tucked into their beds after countless glasses of water and several empty threats about … [Read more...]

5 Ways to Readjust Expectations During Deployment

How to Survive Deployment When You Have Nothing Left to Give

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Deployment is hard. It’s draining—physically, emotionally, mentally. It’s hard to be separated from your partner and harder when anything complicates it. A birth. A death. A PCS. A difficult job. Kids with special needs. Depression. And sometimes it feels like the homecoming will never happen. That you and your spouse will always be trapped in an endless deployment filled with … [Read more...]

How to Survive Deployment When You Have Nothing Left to Give

10 GIFs Showing Phases of Deployment Emotions

10 GIFs showing phases of deployment emotions

1. Superwoman or Superman Phase The initial “everything will be ok, I’m strong, I can handle this” phase. 2. Freakout Phase This often happens pretty quickly after the superwoman phase and sometimes involves hysterics and/or fantasies of running away with your significant other so they don’t have to leave. 3. The Ice Cream Phase The ice cream phase aka “I do … [Read more...]

10 GIFs Showing Phases of Deployment Emotions

99 Days to Go: Hitting the Deployment Wall

the deployment wall

I have hit “the wall.” You know that point during a deployment where you are just done? Realistically you know it is far from over. But mentally, physically, emotionally…you are kind of over it all. You give yourself all the “suck it up” pep talks. You remind yourself that you are strong and resilient. You kick yourself for feeling this way because YOU are the one who gets to … [Read more...]

99 Days to Go: Hitting the Deployment Wall

The Deployment Curse

the deployment curse

We asked spouses to share their deployment curse stories. Here are some of the best. Share yours in the comments! Abbie Bruno Patterson: LOL--Well, it wasn't a "deployment" (but at the time, for us it was.) My husband left for his 2 week Reserve duty. Literally within HOURS of him leaving our dog died. Not only did I have to figure out what to do with her corpse, in the middle … [Read more...]

The Deployment Curse

Is War From the Homefront Sabotaging Military Marriages?

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Article and Photo Credit: Besa Pinchotti for NMFA Last night, I attended the D.C. premiere of the new Ethan Hawke-January Jones movie, “Good Kill,” about Air Force pilot turned drone operator, Maj. Tom Egan. If you’re interested in drones, you’ll learn a lot from this movie—but what hit home for me was how this service member’s high-stress job impacted his relationship with … [Read more...]

Is War From the Homefront Sabotaging Military Marriages?

Deployment? Things Will Change.

change and communication during deployment

There’s lots of time spent amongst military spouses talking about how we can each persevere through deployments. It can be really challenging to face the day to day grind while your spouse is away, but what about the big picture items? What do you do when your spouse is deployed and you make major life changes? How do you handle deployment? How do you continue to try to make … [Read more...]

Deployment? Things Will Change.

How to Love for Two During Deployment

how to love for two during deployment

When a key figure in our lives suddenly disappears for a long period of time how do we actively acknowledge their “presence,” without their physical presence? Better yet how do we explain to our young children that daddy isn’t gone forever, even if he can’t be there for soccer games, dance recitals, and birthday parties? During my husband’s last deployment I found myself in a … [Read more...]

How to Love for Two During Deployment

REALLY Good Care Package Tips for Military Spouses

Care package tips

Article Credit: JoMyGosh.com. (Read more here!) Care packages are one of those things that are at the center of deployment for military significant others. For me, they were always a tangible way to connect with John and take care of him, even when he was 7,000 miles away. It was nice to know that, when he got mail, there would be at least a few minutes of his day that weren’t … [Read more...]

REALLY Good Care Package Tips for Military Spouses

5 Ways to Drop the Deployment Bomb

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So, your spouse comes home with deployment orders and you're finally going to drop the bomb on your kids telling them their active duty parent is about to head overseas. If you're anything like me, having to explain it all and have this conversation is one of the things that will bring you to your knees. There's nothing quite as intimidating as knowing you're giving your kids … [Read more...]

5 Ways to Drop the Deployment Bomb

Reintegration Struggles

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I remember my first year as a brand new military spouse that I heard a lot of buzz about the trials of reintegration. This concept always left me so confused. Seasoned spouses talked about how difficult it could be when their service member returned, and they had to figure out how to put life back together following a deployment. I must admit that I was one of those newly … [Read more...]

Reintegration Struggles

My Honest Thoughts the Week Before Homecoming

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Photo Credit: Flickr user Marines This is the final countdown… 7 Days… Did I really buy that dress for homecoming!? No. No way! Not happening. I will not be THAT wife with my tatas falling out when I run up to him. Nope. But then, he loves those tatas and who am I trying to impress? Him or everyone in the hanger? Do I have time to get to the mall tonight? I do have the shoes … [Read more...]

My Honest Thoughts the Week Before Homecoming

The Only Deployment Playlist You’ll Ever Need

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Article Originally Published at JoMyGosh.com When John was deployed, I listened to a lot of music… and a lot of the same music over and over again. And I know I’m not alone. I put an all call out on Facebook and asked for deployment song suggestions – you know, the ones that speak to you, that you can’t get out of your head, that you just have to listen to. Here’s what a … [Read more...]

The Only Deployment Playlist You’ll Ever Need

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

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A deployment is an interesting thing. Even though most of us are accustomed to surviving (and even thriving) while our service member is away, and even though we are more than capable of handling things on our own…we often find ourselves shaking our head over the things that seem to worry us or the downright silly things we do. We have all heard of the Deployment Curse; an … [Read more...]

25 Silly Things We Do During Deployment

Deployment Battle Plan

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1. Stay Busy This might be the advice you hear most from other spouses who have been through a deployment. That’s because it’s SO very important. It’s crucial that you don’t allow yourself to become too isolated or have so much free time that you end up at home moping all alone. Fill that calendar up as much as you can. You might be a little more worn out, but time will go … [Read more...]

Deployment Battle Plan

Deployment by the Numbers

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7 months, 217 Days, .59 years… It sounds so small, so precise, so easily attainable. So much has happened though, that 7 months might as well be a millennium, he and I living in a sci-fi, parallel universe situation instead of just separated by the continent and ocean that we are. It is 1/8th of our daughter’s young life, and oh my, how she’s grown. It is 1/60th of mine, and … [Read more...]

Deployment by the Numbers