Boyfriend Transitioning out of Military...
Hello, all! I am new to the forum and looking for some advice from those that are familiar with transitioning out of the military.
My boyfriend has been in the military for the last 12 years. We have dated for 2 1/2 years and have planned to move in together this spring (around the 3 year mark). We have been talking about this move for a long time and I am SO excited about it. Unfortunately, it's getting closer to the date of my boyfriend's transition (this fall). As we get closer, he continues to panic. He says he is worried about making the wrong choice "with everything in life" (he says this includes me) and says he doesn't know what he wants to do. One day it seems like he has his mind made up on a career; the next day, he tells me the option from the day before is now his "backup plan." I know he is confused, but sometimes I feel like I'm dealing with multiple personalities.
Now we're to the point that he might not even want to live together. It breaks my heart because I know it's all related to the transition, but he's shut me out so much that I can't get through to him. He keeps saying he "isn't sure" and is afraid to make the wrong choice. We've been talking about this for 2 years and he's already asked my parents to marry me. I know it's not the wrong choice - he's just scared.
Has anyone experienced a boyfriend or husband transitioning out of the military? Did you experience a similar situation? How did you comfort him? I just want things to get better. :(
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