vent and advice.
I'm a DIL and a MIL. Based on your last post, it seems that when you spent time at their house you automatically assumed that they would be overjoyed to take care of the children. I never gave my grandbaby a bath or changed a diaper when her parents were there. Reading and playing are bonding activities. Why would they assume that you wanted them to come when your child was sick, unless you verbalized it, especially given the fact that they were told not to come when you lost your baby? I think there is more going on than you feel comfortable sharing. Still, I don't think your husband should go without you, unless you don't want to go. Seems to me that they tried not to overstep the boundaries. Hope you all get it worked out.
Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level,then beat you with experience.
What did you do that was so terrible that they wouldn't include you in the invite to come and visit? What you mentioned in your post mostly refers to your husband's decisions about his parents and their visits. Where do you fit in that picture?
Mel. "Life...it is what it is. Suck it up, deal with it and move on."
You're in-laws are extremely immature. If it were me I wouldn't waste my time being bothered with ewhat they say or do just not worth it,.
"there is so much more but my husband and his parents had a sit down to vent out about me, what I did, things that were questionable some were valid. The thing is I respect it, it had to be done. "
This statement may say more than you intended, or it is misleading. What are some of the things that you did? Without knowing, then one cannot even begin to form an opinion as to whether or not there is some validity with their supposed issue.
The only thing I can say, is that as long as you are still married to him then they should never extend an invitation that specifically excludes you.
H*** my in-laws aren't even official in-laws yet and they act like this. They've told me that I wasn't good enough for their son and want him to move home. However, for the holidays he won't go without me in his mind I'm kinda part of the package now, ya know? My best advice just let what they say go in one ear and out the other, hold your tongue while your there, and have a best friend to vent to on spend dial as soon as you hit the car.
Im sorry for you having to deal with this. But what I dont understand is you really planning to let your husband and kids go over there house for christmas? Without you? Wow! Your older child will be asking why mum is not there, right? And you will spent christmas without your husband and kids? And your husband is ok with this?
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