Kiera Durfee

Kiera Durfee is an eleven-year military spouse veteran and is an avid writer, teacher, Netflix operator, doughnut eater, and procrastinator. She represented Utah National Guard spouses as the 2014 Utah National Guard Spouse of the Year and feels strongly about military spouses finding the communal and spousal support needed to navigate the tumultuous storms of military living. Kiera enjoys eating, exercising (in that order), singing, ignoring the laundry, and being with her husband and three little girls who are the very center of her life and who simultaneously drive her mad. In addition to being well-versed in hearty wit and sarcasm, she knows all of the state capitals.

A (Former) Spouse Speaks

Why is it so late? I stare at the cursor on the screen blinking numbingly at me. A metronome of impatient,… Read More

6 Things That Probably Won’t Happen During Deployment

Let me be real honest here. Me + deployments = embracing a special brand of mediocrity.   And, surprisingly, I’m… Read More

Why I’m Okay When My Spouse Travels

I dig my husband. It’s true. He’s totally my best friend, and I lo-o-o-ve spending time with him. He just… Read More

Sometimes We Are Just Not Okay…and That’s Okay

Sometimes, I’m not okay. I’m not ashamed or afraid to admit it. Too often, when we struggle – and I mean… Read More

Post-deployment: The Expectations, the Reality, and the Growth

They’re home. After days, weeks, months, or years of paper chains, calendar cross-offs, or your 400th empty diet Dr. Pepper… Read More

What Military Life *Honestly* Looks Like at Christmas Time

cover pc: Julie Pease Featured on the 2016 December cover of Military Spouse Magazine is a beautifully idyllic scene taken by an… Read More

3 Reasons Why My Military Marriage Makes Me a Better Person

Shared on Marriage.com Here’s a Jeopardy factoid for you (you can thank me later): Over time and under intense heat… Read More

6 Tips To Be the Friend People Actually Like

When I was in 1st grade, my BESTFRIENDINTHEWHOLEWIDEWORLDOHMAHGOSH broke up with me on the bus on the way to school.… Read More

Why We For Real Have Got to Get to Know Our Neighbors

Let me tell you a story. A few months ago, the ambulance was called for a little boy in my… Read More

What to Do When You’re Stuck in the In-Between

I spent this morning running the well-managed trails that wind through my community. (I wasn’t particularly looking forward to this… Read More

7 Things We Wish Our FRG Leader Knew About Us

Let’s jump right into it: The FRG. We’ve had our share of them, yes? Family Readiness Groups were created with… Read More

7 New Year’s Resolutions I Promise I’ll Never Even Start

I really dig this time of year. And by dig, I definitely mean that I really dig myself into a… Read More

10 Unconventional Ways to Survive Holiday Madness

Let’s get this straight. “Surviving holiday madness” really means, in my overly unbiased opinion, to avoid it altogether. So, here… Read More

10 Hilarious Ways to Count Down Deployment

Whew! You did it. The despairingly stomach-churning deployment goodbye is done. You’ve made a serious dent in your Costco-sized tissue… Read More

8 Things that Should Probably (not) be on Your PCS To-Do List

Moving is the pits. I’d rather scrub grout blind-folded with a toothbrush in between my toes than ever move again.… Read More

4 Tactics to Deal With the MilSpouse Mean Girls

For the last four months, I have been the music director for my daughter’s elementary school musical, Alice in Wonderland… Read More

18 Things Said By No Military Spouse Ever

I’d consider myself a veteran spouse of sorts. I’ve been there, done a lot of it, understand most of the… Read More

Living on the Edge of My Community

Last Sunday, I strapped on my trusty pair of Keens and exchanged indoor boredom for outdoor beauty by climbing a… Read More