7 Things We Wish Our FRG Leader Knew About Us

Let’s jump right into it: The FRG.

We’ve had our share of them, yes? Family Readiness Groups were created with the specific design to “encourage self-reliance among members by providing information, referral assistance and mutual support.” (I literally just looked that up. I didn’t know that until 12 seconds ago.)

As we all know (or should know), an effective FRG is run by myriad volunteers, some of whom were “voluntold,” some of whom are doing so with minimal time. Many are burnt out and lack motivation, and some blessed souls are those who are excited and willing to serve, but lack knowledge, resources or the support of other volunteers.

Whew. It’s work, my friends.

This article is in response to another MilitarySpouse.com article about what our FRG leaders wish that we knew. And, ooh da lolly, I have struggled with writing this one. I’ve been on the receiving end of FRGs for the better part of 11 years; it was just last year when I first became the FRG leader in my husband’s unit. And I. Have. Learned. So. Much. Writing this article was half guilt-provoking and half motivating so that I can start doing better in my own FRG.

After asking (so many obnoxious) questions and scouring articles and Facebook posts and forums discussing the FRG concerns of military spouses nationwide, I have created a list of items that demonstrate some concerns of spouses of various ages, sex, military branches, ranks, and stages of life (compiled from several sleepless nights of wondering, searching and asking annoyed military friends).