Let’s face it: the holiday season can feel like a marathon you didn’t sign up for—sprinting through aisles, juggling family obligations, and trying to remember if you’ve already bought Aunt Carol a present (you know, the one you keep re-gifting every year). But before you end up in a holiday-induced meltdown, here’s a checklist to help you make it through without pulling your hair out.

Create a Budget (And Stick to It)

The holiday season is expensive. Like, ridiculously expensive. From gift shopping to travel costs, things can quickly spiral out of control. To avoid that credit card debt that haunts you until June, set a budget. Write down what you need for gifts, travel, food, and decorations. Don’t forget to factor in the random “just because” gifts for the neighbor and the mailman. (Yes, those gifts add up, too.)

Plan a Shopping Trip (And Get a List)

Don’t go into the holiday shopping abyss without a plan. Create a list of gifts for each family member, with some extra wiggle room for those “oh, I forgot” moments. You might be tempted to just scroll through Amazon, but if you’re shopping in-person, go prepared: comfy shoes, a reusable shopping bag, and a snack (or two). You can thank me later.

Connect with Your Spouse and Friends

The holidays aren’t just about buying stuff—it’s about spending time with the people you love. If your spouse is home for the holidays, find moments to connect. Set aside an evening to watch cheesy Christmas movies together or bake cookies with the kids (trust me, the mess is part of the fun). Call up friends who understand the military life; they’ll get it when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Even if it’s just a text, keep those bonds tight.

Overcome Financial Stress

Okay, so you’re feeling the pinch. It’s real. But don’t let stress win. Focus on what you can do. Consider homemade gifts (like a framed family photo) or fun experiences rather than more stuff. It’s less about price tags and more about showing you care. And if you need to scale back—do it. There’s no shame in being financially responsible.

Incorporate Quality Time in the Prep

The holiday hustle can make you forget the actual reason for the season. Don’t get so wrapped up in shopping and wrapping that you miss quality time with your family. Try taking breaks: a quick walk, a holiday puzzle, or cooking a meal together. Quality moments often come from the simplest things—so don’t over-schedule yourself. Remember, holiday perfection doesn’t exist.