Ultimately, the most important thing I want you to know is there are organizations like mine and many others for YOU. Yes YOU, you gorgeous, amazing, incredible, resourceful SO’s, savvy mothers, no kids families and well … all of you trying to get information, meet your FRO, meet your future friends and have a very positive experience with the military. Bullies will always exist whether in the military or not, they exist everywhere. They are a very small group therefore they yell louder than everyone else to be heard. Here’s what I can promise you: there are AMAZING SO’s everywhere! They will have your back, become your emergency contacts, call and check on you, take you out when you are down or just ride shotgun to fist pump out of the F150.
I also get the remarkable pleasure of meeting you every single day. Do not get caught up in “the sites.” Heck I will never know what “the sites” could say about me because they don’t get my “like” to check on what they may or may never say about me. The majority is where you want to be, come over to this side! We’ve been here for generations and we will continue to be here as long as the military exists. Do yourself a favor and filter what you take in. I hear all of the time, “but Cassandra what if they say something about me?? ” I am only in there because I want to make sure they don’t say anything about me. Question for you sweetheart? How much time are you going to waste in there to make sure you don’t make the cut? If you did, then what? Who cares..
In conclusion to YOU bullies: If you see a person upset, angry, frustrated, fancy purse, not a fancy purse, yoga pants, kids, big ring, small ring, nice car, old car, young wife, “moto wife”, withdrawn socially or with coupons … remember it takes guts sometimes just to go to the commissary. Are my pants too tight? Am I too dressed up? Am I not dressed up enough? Were my kids too loud? Did I wear too much makeup?
Do you think they know my husband is deployed?
It seems many live in fear of being blasted on Facebook more than anything else in our community. Here’s the blunt truth, It is not humorous to laugh at others, loudly or silently in any aspect of life. Your popular blast could cause someone their life because you didn’t take the time to maturely see the bigger picture, or more importantly put yourself in their shoes. Did you know SO’s and family members take their own lives every day due to lack of true relationships? It isn’t now nor ever going to be cute on instagram to make other people your status update.
I am a “D” didn’t you know? I enjoyed a Tuesday afternoon off from my organization to hang out with my members/friends and my song came on while in a sun dress.. I HAVE to be living off the husband. Why otherwise could I be that “happy?” Oh, it must be nice to be an officer’s wife. I wonder, do you think they picked up on me selling my 335xi BMW to support the gorgeous man I love and launch the non-profit? *wink*
If nothing else significant others, you always have us on the other side of the fence. We are always here waiting for you.
