I’m not saying every military spouse is perfect. There are men and women spouses that rub me the wrong way or act offensive, but are we not doing the same thing by acting “higher than thou” and looking for a reason to judge our fellow military spouses? Why are we so determined to find reasons to attack each-other and tear each other down? Based off the amount of pages on social media dedicated to attacking military spouses it seems the least we could do is not join the attacking masses and instead support our own kind. After all, we’re the only ones who can truly understand what our families and each other go through. Why are we so ready to tear each other down instead of raise one another up?
These days it feels like as a military spouse you are walking on ice that is ready to crack. And at the first wrong thing you say or do, the ice cracks and you’ll be held under by other military spouses until you drown in their hate and verbal abuse. I hear that the military spouse community used to be a community of support and I would love to see that again. I would love to see us bond together as military spouses and maybe extend a little extra love and understanding towards the spouses that say or do something “wrong”. I’d love to see us all show a little empathy and not give support to pages that seek out to ostracize offending military spouses or “dependas”. It may seem like a harmless thing to do, but each time you use the word “dependa” or visit one of those pages you are weakening the heart of the military spouse community and fueling the fire of hate a little more. We, as a community, need to regain sight of what’s important and that is building a military spouse community that rejects hate and judgment and is instead fueled by support, empathy, understanding and friendship. As a fellow military spouse I ask you to please make a stand by supporting your community instead of supporting those that would weaken it with judgment and hate.
Read more: World’s Worst Military Spouse?
